Posted 10/14/20
You Can’t Control the River, but You CAN Control Your Raft.
When rafting on a river, you can’t control the water, but you CAN control your raft and navigate the journey successfully.
The same is true for our lives.
When difficulty occurs in life, do you focus on that difficulty and spend all your energy trying to control it, railing against it, moaning about it, trying to make it go away…or do you look for the path that will take you through it successfully?
Trying to control a river is futile…it’s a waste of your time and energy. Focus instead on controlling your raft to stay afloat no matter the conditions of the water.
In rafting…
…you must keep the load on your vessel balanced, or you will capsize, tip, or drag through your journey.
…remember there is a way to come through the rough water safely.
…when the water stagnates and the current stops carrying you, you must propel your raft forward, or you too will stagnate.
Bring the lessons of the river to your life as you navigate through life’s journey:
- keep your load light,
- keep your life in balance,
- don’t fear the rough water,
- stay focused on finding your path, and you will travel through it successfully.
Stay above the rough waters…Float and glide through life’s ups and downs…
…And enjoy the scenery along the way!
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Posted 8/25/20
You may never have 100% agreement.
You don’t need everyone to support and agree with you in order to be successful.
Consider great leaders in history.
Jesus, Buddha, Abraham Lincoln all had large segments of the population opposing their visions and actions, yet they still made enormous, lasting, positive impacts in the world.
They were often opposed with vehemence and violence, but that didn’t stop them. If they encountered someone who disagreed with them? They didn’t stop. They didn’t stop their journey and remain stuck there until they convinced and converted that one person into agreement. They respectfully moved on to share their message and vision with the next person, and look what they accomplished! What would the world be like today if they had stopped following their hearts until the first (or second or third…) dissenter converted and joined with them?
You don’t need every last person to agree with you in order to follow your heart either.
There may be moments you feel as though you’re walking life’s journey alone, but you’re not…you’re only walking without the naysayers!
Don’t let naysayers keep you stuck.
Don’t wait for agreement from others before you follow your heart.
Keep going and accomplish your dreams!
As you follow your heart, you’ll find you’re not alone!
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Posted 8/24/20
Life is a series of experiments.
When Thomas Edison’s experiments didn’t turn out the way he had anticipated, he didn’t see himself as a failure. The experiment was a failure. There’s a difference.
How do you react? When things don’t go as you expected, wanted, or planned…what do you say to yourself? What do you say about yourself?
Be like Thomas Edison…focus on the elements of the situation. What worked? What didn’t? What do you think was the issue that prevented success? What changes can you make that may bring success the next time?
You don’t necessarily need to throw your entire dream or vision out.
Sometimes it only takes minor changes to bring your vision to successful fruition.
Thomas Edison wasn’t successful on his first attempt to develop the light bulb. In fact, he tried over 3,000 designs and experiments before it worked! But, he had a vision he believed in, one he passionately wanted to see manifest in reality. So he kept reviewing, making changes, and trying new designs over and over until it worked.
Were all his first 3,000 attempts failures? As Edison himself said: “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”
Do you want the outcome you envision?
Then say engaged, stay interested, STAY IN ACTION!!!
Be like Thomas Edison…look for the elements that may be preventing a successful outcome, make the appropriate changes, and try again.
Don’t give up on your dreams…Be the inventor of your life!
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Posted 4/6/20
Your white shirt won’t be pristine and white if you wash it in a mud puddle!
The same is true for your life.
Your life can’t sparkle if you keep soaking it in the grime and muck of negativity.
The muck may be your own thinking…your habits…your actions…the people you spend your time with…people you’re valuing…your past…even your loved ones.
Just like your body – the quality and structure of it – is made from millions of very tiny cells, it is the small, repetitive acts that give the quality and structure to your life.
Do you want your life to be sparkling with hope, joy, and inspiration?
Or will you allow it to be dull and grimy from fear, angst regret, bitterness, sadness, and criticism?
Get out of the mud…bathe yourself in positive light each day, and shine!
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Posted 4/5/20
When a storm blows, the ocean gets churned up, but the mountain remains unmoved, unchanged by the storm.
Will you be the ocean or the mountain?
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Posted 4/4/20
Enjoy the View, But Keep Doing Your Work
Once a chick has pecked a hole in its shell and stuck its head out, it can see that an entire world exists beyond what it has known up to that point. But, in order to be part of that world, to live a life free of its confines and limitations, the chick cannot stop there. The chick must continue to do its work of breaking open the rest of the shell and taking steps into the new world it has discovered. If it does not, if it remains as it is, merely watching and observing the world, it will wither and die with its body – and life – forever stuck in the confines and limitation of its shell. It will never walk, never run, never GROW!
Have you ever done that…remained stuck, not in action, enamored and satisfied merely with the new thoughts, insights, and understanding you’ve discovered? I know I have! I’ve had an insight or idea through which I can see exciting new possibilities for my life, and rather than taking action in that direction what did I do??? I sat motionless, perfectly still, watching for the world around me to change just because I had a new thought! And what happened??? Every time, the ideas I had, the possibilities I saw, and the excitement I had felt all withered and died without ever having a chance to develop and live! I may have broken through my limited shell of understanding and vision, but without action, my life didn’t change – it remained confined.
Throughout your life you will see new views. Realize, like a hatchling, you must keep in action in order to live in those new worlds! Let the view motivate and inspire you, but don’t fall into the trap of merely admiring the beauty of the view. REALLY enjoy that new world by actually LIVING in it, not merely observing it from the confines of your old shell.
If the new view you see inspires you, excites you, uplifts you, don’t be afraid to take action…step into it, RUN into it, DANCE in that joyous new freedom. It will only enhance expand your life.
Don’t free only your head. If you do, your life will just wither and die still in your shell.
May you discover and inhabit many wonderful new worlds throughout your life!
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Posted 2/11/20
Watch What You Say…to Yourself!
Be aware and mindful regarding what you say to yourself…and what you say about yourself…it matters.
What you say to yourself creates the foundation of your life and your reality…even if you don’t say it out loud.
For example…if you walk around saying (or even just thinking) “I’m so tired” repeatedly, you remain tired. You’re focused solely on that feeling, so you notice each moment you experience being tired, gathering your evidence that yep, you’re right…you are tired. You increase your awareness of that experience, and therefore remain stuck in that experience of feeling tired. In essence, you keep creating that reality for yourself.
But, if you start thinking or saying “I’m waking up” every time you feel tired, THAT is what you will create…you’ll feel awake!
See how much power you have?
Rephrase things.
When you find yourself saying “I can’t…”, ask yourself “Is that really, really true?” Are you truly physically incapable?
I’m guessing plenty of people told the Wright brothers they couldn’t fly. If they heard it, they didn’t listen to it. Instead, they listened to what they told themselves and kept trying and advancing step by step until they succeeded.
What YOU say DOES make a difference. So rephrase things. Instead of “I can’t”, why not tell yourself “I can try”, or “maybe I can”, or “I can learn that”, or ask yourself “what’s the first thing I need to do in order to accomplish that?”
This isn’t about being phony or trying to make yourself love everything. It’s about removing your self-imposed limits and empowering yourself to take a new step forward, to be your best self, to have your best life.
Say something good - Think and speak in a way that creates a positive experience and positive reality for you.
If it’s in your heart, let it be in your mind too.
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Posted 2/8/20
You CAN change.
You just have to do that new behavior enough times, and it will become your norm. That’s all it takes!
You’re like a dancer who’s been performing the same dance for years. In order to successfully change some of the steps in that dance, the dancer must consciously think through the new sequence of steps and practice, practice, practice.
With enough practice, the dancer’s body will move automatically and fluidly through the new steps. Without the practice, if the dancer doesn’t take each step with conscious awareness, their body will automatically perform the old sequence of steps, because that is what it is used to doing – what it knows. That is familiar. That old pattern is so routine, the dance can be performed without any thought – on auto-pilot.
Even talented, professional dancers have to create a new ‘habit’ for their muscles to perform, or their bodies – on autopilot – will continue to recreate the old patterns.
But dancers recreate and improve their dances all the time, and you can too!
Change a couple steps in your life and perform them consciously until they become automatic for you.
Keep changing steps until you LOVE the dance of your life!
You CAN do it…one step at a time!
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